You’re busy, right? Between everything you have to get done, you don’t ever get to do a single thing you want to do. Sometimes barely stopping to eat, you hustle between activities never stopping to take a breath.
Brace yourself, because this is gonna sound harsh. But, I promise it’s coming from a place of love. You are busy because you choose to be busy. You don’t have to be busy. You can pare down, peel back, and generally dispose of about 80% of the stuff that you do. Don’t believe me? You can read more about it here.
If you want to have more time, eliminate the things that make you busy. For example, laundry is a huge thing in our house. With two kids under five and a preteen, the washing machine hardly stops running. Well, we had one laundry hamper in the little girls’ room so every time I washed clothes I had to sort through sizes. In a stroke of what can only be described as pure genius, I decided we should have two hampers in the girls’ room. Voila. Problem solved. No more sorting clothes. At minimum an hour of work each week eliminated.
I realize this seems obvious. But, you’d be surprised how long I’ve been putting up with this clothes problem. I bet that I’m not the only one that has these self-imposed barriers. Do you know how long it took me to implement it after I thought it up? One day. Do you know how long it took me to come up with a better way after I actually tried to think about it? Ah, maybe 2.5 minutes. But, instead of just putting in the effort, I ignored the problem. I let myself believe there was no better solution so I had an excuse to be lazy. And then, even worse, making myself feel better about it by wallowing in my busy-ness.
This is just a recent example of how I let my excuses get the better of me. It’s silly, but it happens to all of us. Here is what I’ve found.
1) You have to be serious.
I know everybody says this. But, at the risk of sounding cliche, I am serious. If you really want to make something happen, you have to want it deep down in a spot that no one can touch. If you’re not willing to back it up with real actual work, don’t bother starting. Goals are hard. If they were easy, everyone would be awesome. Look around. What’s the ratio of awesome to meh in your neighborhood? Wanna be awesome? Refer back to last week’s post. I’m pretty sure your goals should make you want to puke your guts out.
2) Just get to it.
Now that you’ve gotten serious, it’s time to get to it. Stop talking about it. Just start doing it. The rest will fall into place. I don’t care what it is. If you want to be doing it right now but you’re not, you’re stalling. Just go do it. If you don’t actually want to do it, stop talking about it.
If you tell me you’re too busy, I’ll tell you it must not be a priority. Here’s how I know. If it was a priority, it would be done. End of equation. Which leads me to my next point.
3) Stop making excuses.
If you want to work for Awesome and Awesomer Co Ltd, go talk to the people there. Send them an email. Offer them some help. Make a connection. Do it now. Not next week. Not when you get some time. And not on any other milestone in the future. Do it now. Anything other than doing whatever it is, is an excuse.
Let’s be clear here. I’m not arguing the validity of your excuse. It doesn’t matter. Fundamentally, it’s still an excuse. So stop making them. And just start making things happen instead.
In the past week I have had one person ask me directly how I have time to write a blog, draw comics, work, and be a mom. She couldn’t figure out how it all gets done. I have heard grumblings on Facebook and heard references in the comments about it. Everyone is busy. Everyone is stressed out. Everyone feels out of control.
Peel back everything. Start at ground zero. Look at things logically. Take time to figure out what your problems are. You have to actually think about this stuff. It’s not just going to fix itself. If you are too busy to get anything done, there is a reason. Find it, and eliminate it. Do this over and over and you’ll get some control back. Keep doing this after you have control, and you’ll be doing anything you want in no time.
So, stop being busy and start being awesome.
Comment below with your self-imposed barriers and what you’re doing to move them out of the way.