What Am I Doing?

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This is my tenth post. When I sat down to write this week, I planned on trying to hash out what exactly it is that I’m doing here. It wasn’t until after I decided this that I realized this is post number ten. It’s kindof perfect, in a way. Maybe my subconscious knew it was sortof a milestone… the kind in which I better put up or shut up.

I hate that.

So, I’m gonna try to lay it out. But, truth is, I’m not totally sure what it is that I’m doing. So bear with me – because if I know anything, I know this blog is fluid. I write about what I think about. What I think about is always evolving. Hopefully that means this blog will evolve with me.


What I Want

When you follow different lifestyle designers via their blogs, books, podcasts, and what-not, you hear the same question repeated over and over again. What do you want? Sometimes it starts to get a little annoying… like a mantra you can’t get out of your head.

It gets under your skin.  Always making you think.  Always forcing you to hold yourself accountable.  Never accepting excuses.  It’s exhausting.  And exhilarating.

Here’s the thing.  When you actually take the time to define what it is that you want, it’s like the skies part and the way to your goal is so clear… but you don’t really understand why.

You just know that this is what you should be doing.  It’s kindof that way with this blog…

So, back to the point.  What do I want?  When I hear this question, the same picture always pops up in my head.  I’m at home.  Home is a large but homey house in the country.  There is lots of property with woods, water, and a meadow area.  I spend my days with my family just enjoying nature, and each other, and exploring what there is to explore.  In this picture I have time to spend with my family all the time, so we can really get to know each other.  When my kids ask me “How do they do that?”, we find out together.  Not just by reading, but by doing.

We have barbecues and parties.  It’s set up for guests.  I love having people over.  To me, entertaining is fun.  It’s more fun if your set up works for entertaining.

I work when I want to.  My schedule is 100% defined by me.

We grow our own food.  Maybe.  Or maybe we just grow some of it.  I’m not totally sold on having to take care of a big garden all the time… but I do like fresh food.  Either way, we eat organic locally grown meat and produce.

My husband’s schedule is also 100% flexible.  He works when he wants to.  That means we spend time together when we want to.

We go where we want, when we want.  That means sometimes we travel.  Sometimes we stay home and let travelers come to us.


What’s The Plan

Okay, so that’s the picture I get.  What exactly then, is my plan to get it?  Honestly, I don’t know for sure.  But, I do know that knowing what I want is the first step.  I figure, I’m just gonna start trying to get the things I want, and the rest will works itself out.  It’s kindof genius really.

It seems so many people focus on getting the money to get what they want, instead of focusing on what they really want.  So then, they’re left with money but don’t know what to do with it.  Or, they never get the money.  Thereby never getting what they want.

I’m just doing the opposite.  We only need money because it buys us what we want.  Money on it’s own is perfectly useless.  So, why focus on the means?  We should focus on the end.  The rest will fall in line.


So What Am I Doing?

I’m just focusing on what I want and seeing what happens.  And then I write about it.  Let’s call it an experiment in human potential.

I have kicked my knowledge intake into overdrive.  Anything and everything I wonder about I research until I’m either satisfied or bored.  Then I move on to the next thing.  I’ve been doing this over and over and over again for the past year or so.  Occasionally I come across something that holds my interest.

Right now I’m interested in health and wellness and how diet impacts your mental capacity i.e. focus, concentration, anxiety, depression, etc. Also, entrepreneurship, homesteading, blogging, and lifestyle design.  Additionally, I am fascinated with beating the system.  I don’t mean by being deceitful.  I just love working the system to my benefit, within the parameters that have been laid out.  It’s like a game that needs solving.


I guess that’s what I’m doing here.  Figuring out what I want and then figuring out how to get it.  And then I tell you about it.  So, then the question I have to ask is, what do you want?  Comment below with your answer.


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    OK, so we talked about this last night a bit and I’m incredibly impressed by the fact that you are willing to put yourself out there and that I’m able, weekly, to learn new things about one of my best friends. So, I’m putting myself out there a bit so you can hold me accountable.

    What I want…I’ve already got some of them that I wouldn’t change for anything. I’ve got great kids who have stuck with me and choose to be part of my life even though they aren’t “technically” my own and even though situations have changed. That’s pretty freaking powerful. I’ve got a grandson who lowers my blood pressure immediately every time I see him and makes me genuinely happy with the yell from the door and the run into the house of, “GRANDMA!” I have amazing family (parents and brothers) that supports me no matter what and keep me understanding that I’m still very lucky, even when I’m down about things. I have phenomenal friends both personal, who are more like family, and at work who are just fun, hard-working and impressive in their efforts to do best for kids and families in our district. And, I LOVE my job. I think I’m actually good at it. I believe, corny as it is, I’m making a difference and making work easier for many around me, or at least I hope so.

    What I’m missing. I agree with Ms. Six Thirty-One. The family is “it”. I’m looking for a significant other to talk to, be honest with, to laugh with and who will listen to me gripe and then give me ideas of how to get past that and do something. I want someone to grow old with (or older ;o) and be happy that we get that chance. I want to remember the things I’ve done poorly in the past so I don’t make those mistakes again and don’t feel guilty.

    I want to be traveling, not just talking about it, to lots of places, weird places, places that I’ve thought about since I was little because of some movie. And I’m going to do those things.

    Starting now. And so, today I planned, cause I can’t really have a conversation with Ms. Six Thirty-One and call her out and then not step up myself. Damn it! It really would be so much easier.

    • Yeah! Nice work. If you don’t plan for it, it won’t happen. Also, I love that me complaining is what gets your ass in gear. Ha! Anything not to sound like me!!

  • i don’t know what i want, but now i’ll think about it instead of just complaining that i don’t have or aren’t doing what i want. I know it has a lot to due to family time-so that’s a start, right?

    • Yes, that is a start! I think, sometimes, figuring out what you want is harder than actually getting it. But, hands down, the only way you’ll figure it out is if you stop and think about it. 🙂